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Joy in the Stress

October 31, 2018 | Kristen James

Spiritual GrowthMarriage & Relationships

Obviously people do this literally every day, but man... planning a wedding is a lot of work! 

If I had unlimited budget, this would be much easier! I would just hire someone to do it for me! But instead, I've created about 100 DIY projects for myself. And since I'm one of those "creative types" mixed in with a "type A" personality. This has become STRESS central! 

God says, "Do not be anxious for anything." Even when it's about the stress you've created for yourself! Actually, especially then! He goes on to say in Philippians 4, "But in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, make your requests known to God." Okay, got that DOWN. I've been making A LOT of requests. But it seems that I've missed this key part at the end of that verse ---- WITH THANKSGIVING. 

When we have a thankful heart, life is just better. And I'll be completely transparent and honest with you here - I have not been thankful, I've been cranky. Someone said to me last week, "make sure you enjoy the process!" And my exact words were, "What is there to enjoy? This is not fun at all." CRANK ALERT. WRONG HEART ALERT. 

My cousin asked my sister, who is my maid of honor, if I was a Bridezilla. She said, "no not at all, Kristen is really mellow." And I was so proud of that, that I hadn't driven anyone crazy or been a ranting lunatic. But my heart has been wrong and cranky this whole time. And I am not proud of that. I haven't done one thing with joy in my heart. 

On Sunday and Monday, I was bombarded with people asking "aren't you so excited?!" "Are you having so much fun?!" "Can I help?!" It was a prospective check. I have 17 days left until this wedding and I've decided I'm going to find the joy in every single minute of every single one of those days left.

Last night, I was up until 1AM weeding vinyl (google it) from the most intricate design I created for my favors. And I smiled. I cracked up at my sister's frustration with her x-acto knife, traded her my tweezers and my job so she could have more fun, pet the dog in between sheets. It was a great night. 

Life gets rough sometimes. Sometimes it feels too heavy. But God is there to lift us up and help us. But who would you rather help out? The person who is so thankful and excited about all the things God has in store during and after this challenge or the person who grumbles about how slow the guy in front of them is walking in the grocery store, complains about the cereal selection and demands a coupon at the register? I'm sure we've all been one of those people! 

Let's work together to find the joy in the frustrating, overwhelming, tedious moments. Be thankful in everything. Count our blessings. You can get through life being a crank, but it's not going to be the best life you can have. I vow to find the joy in everything leading up to our vows! I hope you will too!

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