Loving “Toughness” Principles for Couples

July 02, 2019 | Brenda Price

Marriage & Relationships

"Tough Love" can make your relations stronger, even though it is sometimes hard to tackle! I read this article today, "17 Loving Toughness Principles For Singles and Married Couples," and thought maybe it could be a great way for you and your other half to go over this list and build on it!  Talk about these items and grow stronger! Its for singles and married couples! 


17 Loving Toughness Principles for Singles and Married Couples 

1. Don't let a relationship move too fast in its infancy. 
2. Don't discuss your personal inadequacies and flaws in great detail when the relationship is new. 
3. Remember that respect precedes love. 
4. Don't call too often on the phone or give the other person an opportunity to get tired of you. 
5. Don't be too quick to reveal your desire to get married 
6. Most important: Relationships are constantly being tested by cautious lovers who like to nibble at the bait before swallowing the hook. 
7. Extending the same concept, keep in mind that virtually every dating relationship that continues for a year or more and seems to be moving toward marriage will be given the ultimate test. 
8. Do not depend entirely upon one another for the satisfaction of every emotional need. 
9. Guard against selfishness in your love affair. 
10. Beware of blindness to obvious warning signs that tell you that your potential husband or wife is basically disloyal, hateful, spiritually uncommitted, hooked on drugs or alcohol, given to selfishness, etc. 
11. Beginning early in the dating relationship, treat the other person with respect and expect the same in return. 
12. Do not equate human worth with flawless beauty or handsomeness! 
13. If genuine love has escaped you thus far, don't begin believing "no one would ever want me." 
14. Regardless of how brilliant the love affair has been, take time to "check your assumptions" with your partner before committing yourself to marriage. 
15. Sexual familiarity can be deadly to a relationship. 

16."If you hold love too loosely then it flies away; if you hold love too tightly, it'll die. It's one of the mysteries of life."
17. There is nothing about marriage that eliminates the basic need for freedom and respect in romantic interactions.


By Dr. James Dobson , Focus on the Family (Mon - Fri 11pm On Star 99.1)

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